| Author | Message | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 509 Registered: 2-2008 |
My friend is known to be a little messy, and doesn't mind messiness in others. In fact, if you ever see him being neat and tidy, it probably means he dislikes you. Why is this so? | ||
| Potato (Potato)
New member Username: Potato Post Number: 1241 Registered: 7-2010 |
Is your friend HAM? Messy as in being unclean? Messy as in having an unorderly apartment/workspace? Messy as a state of mind? Messy as in having "messy manners"? When you see him being neat and tidy, is it a sign that he dislikes you in general? Or just temporarily because he thinks he has to clean up for you? Wild guess: Is your friend a dog (or other pet) that doesn't like being bathed? | ||
| Emeraldink (Emeraldink)
New member Username: Emeraldink Post Number: 544 Registered: 4-2007 |
Another angle: is he a child that throws his toys around, but if he dislikes you, he takes all of them and hides them in the box where they belong? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 511 Registered: 2-2008 |
Potato (Potato) Is your friend HAM? Yes. Messy as in being unclean? Messy as in having an unorderly apartment/workspace? Messy as a state of mind? Any of these can apply. Messy as in having "messy manners"? Not necessarily. When you see him being neat and tidy, is it a sign that he dislikes you in general? Not really. Or just temporarily Yes. because he thinks he has to clean up for you? Noish. Wild guess: Is your friend a dog (or other pet) that doesn't like being bathed? No. Emeraldink (Emeraldink) Another angle: is he a child that throws his toys around, but if he dislikes you, he takes all of them and hides them in the box where they belong? No, nice ideas though. | ||
| Potato (Potato)
New member Username: Potato Post Number: 1243 Registered: 7-2010 |
When he is being neat, has he cleaned up himself? Or has somebody else cleaned up for him? If so, does he want the other person to clean up for him? Is he not able to find his things when somebody else has cleaned up? | ||
| Shez (Shez)
New member Username: Shez Post Number: 2704 Registered: 2-2011 |
has he some kind of OCD? reverse OCD? is he messy with people he likes because he feels more relaxed? | ||
| Redwine (Redwine)
New member Username: Redwine Post Number: 1396 Registered: 1-2011 |
Is your friend being neat in only one particular aspect? If yes, does he hide a particular object/type of objects? Does he maintain one place particularly clean? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 513 Registered: 2-2008 |
Potato (Potato) When he is being neat, has he cleaned up himself? Yesish. Or has somebody else cleaned up for him? No. If so, does he want the other person to clean up for him? No. Is he not able to find his things when somebody else has cleaned up? Irr. Shez (Shez) has he some kind of OCD? reverse OCD? Nope. is he messy with people he likes because he feels more relaxed? No or irr. Redwine (Redwine) Is your friend being neat in only one particular aspect? Yes. If yes, does he hide a particular object/type of objects? No. Does he maintain one place particularly clean? Yes. | ||
| Redwine (Redwine)
New member Username: Redwine Post Number: 1401 Registered: 1-2011 |
Is the place he keeps particularly clean a kitchen? a bathroom? Not an entire room, but only a part of it? Does it work only when disliked people visit his place? In disliked people's places? In other private residences? In public places? | ||
| Ciaobella (Ciaobella)
New member Username: Ciaobella Post Number: 674 Registered: 8-2011 |
Is he tidy BECAUSE he doesn't like the person? Or is that coincidental? For instance, I'm thinking of someone who is very tidy at work but not at home, and she hates a lot of people she works with. But she's not especially tidy because she doesn't like them. She just needs the job. | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 516 Registered: 2-2008 |
Redwine (Redwine) Is the place he keeps particularly clean a kitchen? No. a bathroom? No. Not an entire room, but only a part of it? Yes. Does it work only when disliked people visit his place? Yes, for SVV of "place." In disliked people's places? In other private residences? No. In public places? Not any public place, but... Ciaobella (Ciaobella) Is he tidy BECAUSE he doesn't like the person? Yes. Or is that coincidental? No. For instance, I'm thinking of someone who is very tidy at work but not at home, and she hates a lot of people she works with. But she's not especially tidy because she doesn't like them. She just needs the job. Not like this, but keep on that train of thought. | ||
| Ciaobella (Ciaobella)
New member Username: Ciaobella Post Number: 691 Registered: 8-2011 |
His business? His home? A piece of furniture, such as a desk or shelf? | ||
| Shez (Shez)
New member Username: Shez Post Number: 2739 Registered: 2-2011 |
Is it his office? or desk? or cubbyhole? | ||
| Blue (Blue)
New member Username: Blue Post Number: 13 Registered: 1-2012 |
the particularly clean place is related to his job?profession? is he researcher? scientist? professor? student? is it relevant? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 520 Registered: 2-2008 |
Ciaobella (Ciaobella) His business? Yope. His home? No. A piece of furniture, Yes. such as a desk or shelf? But not these. Shez (Shez) Is it his office? or desk? or cubbyhole? No to all. Blue (Blue) Welcome, Blue! the particularly clean place is related to his job? Yes. profession? I wouldn't call it this. is he researcher? scientist? professor? student? No to all. is it relevant? His job is, yes. | ||
| Balin (Balin)
New member Username: Balin Post Number: 16361 Registered: 4-2010 |
Furniture: Chair? Couch? Wardrobe? Chest of drawers? Table? | ||
| Ciaobella (Ciaobella)
New member Username: Ciaobella Post Number: 696 Registered: 8-2011 |
Hmmm- the refrigerator? If it is perfectly clean, he has no food to offer you. So when you're hungry, you leave instead of staying on. Is this close? | ||
| Shez (Shez)
New member Username: Shez Post Number: 2750 Registered: 2-2011 |
does he work in education? police? government? the arts? sports? catering? manufacturing? fashion? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 526 Registered: 2-2008 |
Balin (Balin) Furniture: Chair? Couch? Wardrobe? Chest of drawers? Table? This. Ciaobella (Ciaobella) Hmmm- the refrigerator? If it is perfectly clean, he has no food to offer you. So when you're hungry, you leave instead of staying on. Nope. Is this close? Sort of. Shez (Shez) does he work in education? police? government? the arts? sports? catering? This is closest, in fact it may be a yes. Not sure what you mean by 'catering'. manufacturing? fashion? | ||
| Redwine (Redwine)
New member Username: Redwine Post Number: 1411 Registered: 1-2011 |
Does he move away all food from the table, when disliked people are going to visit him? Does he have his own business? Is this relevant? Does he clean very carefully the table of disliked people to prevent complaints? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 531 Registered: 2-2008 |
Redwine (Redwine) Does he move away all food from the table, when disliked people are going to visit him? No. Does he have his own business? No. Is this relevant? In that his job is relevant, yes. Does he clean very carefully the table of disliked people Yes... to prevent complaints? No. | ||
| Blue (Blue)
New member Username: Blue Post Number: 28 Registered: 1-2012 |
is he a waiter? when he dislikes someone, and tries to be neat/tidy: it is because of his employer? customers/clients? some financial reason? fine etc? he does it unwillingly? willingly? | ||
| Shez (Shez)
New member Username: Shez Post Number: 2767 Registered: 2-2011 |
is he a bus boy? does he clear the table of people he doesn't like as soon as they've finished eating? before they've finished eating? does he own the restaurant? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 536 Registered: 2-2008 |
Blue (Blue) is he a waiter? Yes. when he dislikes someone, and tries to be neat/tidy: it is because of his employer? customers/clients? This. some financial reason? fine etc? he does it unwillingly? willingly? Thisish...it isn't required. Shez (Shez) is he a bus boy? Waiter/bus boy. In the restaurant where I work and where this takes place, they are one and the same. does he clear the table of people he doesn't like as soon as they've finished eating? Yes. before they've finished eating? Possibly. does he own the restaurant? No. | ||
| Potato (Potato)
New member Username: Potato Post Number: 1269 Registered: 7-2010 |
Does he dislike because the persons had complained before? Or becasue they behave in an obnoxious way (being overly loud or something)? Because they're acting rude? Because they're not dressed appropiately for the restaurant? Does he act the way he does to get rid of them as soon as possible? Or to get back at them in a way? Does he act exaggerately polite? | ||
| Shez (Shez)
New member Username: Shez Post Number: 2779 Registered: 2-2011 |
so is he just encouraging them gently to leave? | ||
| Gourami (Gourami)
New member Username: Gourami Post Number: 540 Registered: 2-2008 |
Potato (Potato) Does he dislike because the persons had complained before? Or becasue they behave in an obnoxious way (being overly loud or something)? Because they're acting rude? Any of the above. Because they're not dressed appropiately for the restaurant? Knowing my friend, he wouldn't care. Does he act the way he does to get rid of them as soon as possible? Yes. Or to get back at them in a way? Does he act exaggerately polite? Yesish. Shez (Shez) so is he just encouraging them gently to leave? Yep. **********************SPOILER Simple as that. At high-volume restaurants, such as the one my friend and I work at, maximizing tips is everything. If a server has a table that may not tip, or is taking forever to leave, or is otherwise just too impossible to stand, he wants to get rid of them and get a better table. One strategy is aggressively pre-bussing; taking every little scrap of napkin and straw off the table, removing and cleaning all the plates and cups, sweeping the area around the table...eventually the guests will either take the hint (consciously or subconsciously) or just get annoyed and leave. So yes, when the waiter asks if you're done with your plate so they can "get that out of your way for you," they're trying to get rid of you. But don't let them push you around! You paid for the table, so hold on to it! (Which I have the luxury of saying because I'm not a server) | ||
| Shez (Shez)
New member Username: Shez Post Number: 2804 Registered: 2-2011 |
OMG! now I know why restaurant staff are sometimes over-attentive towards me - they jut can't stand me! :oD |
